Humans of Calvert County, Sarah Merranko & Anita Santoyo
“So, I met Andrew when I was 15 and he was 16. At that point in time, he was going to be a major league Baseball player. I’m not just saying that; he was really THAT good, but he was injured in college, so that dream vanished. He eventually realized that he didn’t want to just go to college for the sake of it.
He told me as I was walking to class one day that he wanted to join the military. So, he joined in February 2009 and we were married May 2010. He went through basic, tech school, and his 1st duty station before we got married. We’ve been married nine years, now. He doesn’t have to leave often, but when he does. it’s for a longer period of time. After a year and a half, we had our first child. By that time I received my degree in International Affairs and I was an Arabic language student. I had job prospects, but it wasn’t going to work out because of where we lived. We were in Montana at the time and the job would have been in Denver…so I knew I wasn’t going to be able to take it.
That was the first time I realized how much the military was going to dictate and affect my life. I think sometimes as a military wife, you don’t realize that the life your husband chooses will affect your decisions, but they do. It was like a wake-up call for me. Three and a half years later, our second boy came along. We were then stationed in Germany and it was awesome. It was simpler there and slower-paced. I miss it.
Less than two years later, the little man came along. Being a boy mom is like constantly trying to protect people from themselves. They want to jump from the highest of highs and run at the fastest of speeds to the most stationary objects. I don’t have any calm people over here, so I find myself in a state of high alert at all times. It’s not easy and I’m realizing that I can’t do it alone.
The people that tell you to cherish these moments and that this time won’t last, well maybe it won’t, but the scars do. Our son still has a scar from stitches he had to get on his chin years ago. It’s a lot.
What moms really need, is people to be there…to be another set of eyes when you need them. It wasn’t easy to accept the help because I find myself feeling like I should just be able to handle it and thinking something is wrong with me that I feel so overwhelmed at times, but I realized I’m not alone.
A lot of times we see God’s hand after the fact, you know? There are a lot of moments in my life where I can look back on and see what was He was doing, but recently I couldn’t see that. I was in a heavy place…I guess you could say that I felt like I was in the season of winter, but I reached out to a friend and she was there for me. It wasn’t easy, but reaching out is what made all the difference and I can see, now, that God has me here at this moment for a reason.
I just realized that it was my pride keeping me from realizing that at times, it really does take a village and it’s ok to rely on that village.”