A new survey from Choice Mutual, a final expense insurance agency, reveals that Marylanders envision their ideal last moments savoring a classic regional delicacy: blue crabs. According to the poll, the top choice for many in Maryland is to spend their final moments digging into a pile of seasoned, steamed blue crabs. This deeply-rooted local tradition not only showcases Maryland’s culinary pride but also reflects the personal importance of comfort and nostalgia in life’s final chapter.

The survey, which asked Americans across the country how they would like to spend their last moments, provided an insightful glimpse into regional preferences for a “dream departure.” While the idea of death is often avoided in everyday conversation, the poll results suggest that people across the U.S. are not only thinking about how they want to be remembered but also how they would ideally like to say goodbye.

A Crab Feast to Remember

For Marylanders, the perfect last meal would be a blue crab feast, complete with the messiness and joy that comes with cracking shells and savoring the sweet, delicate meat. Blue crabs are more than just a meal in Maryland — they are a way of life. Gathering with family and friends over a table covered in crabs, newspaper, and Old Bay seasoning is a hallmark of Maryland culture. It’s no surprise, then, that for many Marylanders, this familiar and beloved tradition ranks as the ideal setting for their final moments.

This sentiment taps into the broader idea of how people find comfort in their roots, especially when considering something as significant as death. As Anthony Martin, CEO & Founder of Choice Mutual, notes, “Our survey revealed that people want their final moments to reflect their passions and joys, whether that’s enjoying a favorite meal, celebrating at a festival, or simply being surrounded by nature. It’s a reminder that life is about making the most of every moment – even the very last one.”

Unique Final Moments Across the Nation

While Marylanders lean toward a seafood-inspired farewell, preferences vary widely across the country, offering a unique glimpse into cultural and regional differences. In Georgia, for example, residents envision a more leisurely exit, with many choosing to toast their final moments with a Georgia Peach Martini. It’s a sweet, Southern twist on saying goodbye — a tribute to both hospitality and good memories.

Hawaii, known for its vibrant island traditions, favors a final meal of kalua pig, a dish that embodies the spirit of aloha with its smoky, tender flavor. The desire for a meaningful culinary experience resonates in other parts of the U.S., as well. In Mississippi, many would prefer to soak in the soulful sounds of a live band in a dimly lit blues bar — a scene that captures the heart of the state’s rich musical heritage.

Not surprisingly, Nevada residents gravitate toward the thrill of a Las Vegas casino. Rolling the dice one last time or sitting at the poker table, residents of the Silver State want their exit to be as thrilling as the life they’ve lived. The survey shows that some people prefer to go out with a bang, while others opt for a more peaceful and reflective experience.

For example, New Hampshire residents in the Granite State would choose to spend their final moments “leaf-peeping” among the vibrant fall foliage of Franconia Notch State Park, capturing the tranquil beauty of New England. Meanwhile, Louisianans lean toward a Mardi Gras-inspired celebration, proving that for some, life’s final act is best done with a party atmosphere.

Reflections on Life and Legacy

The survey didn’t just focus on how Americans want to spend their last moments but also explored how they wish to be remembered. Half of the respondents said they would prefer to have friends and family by their side during their final hours. Nearly a fifth (19%) wanted to share their last moments with one special person, while 13% chose their pet as the ideal companion — a testament to the deep emotional bond between humans and their pets.

Regarding the tone of their last hour, 27% of respondents said they would like to be laughing, embracing the lighter side of life, while 24% hoped for a calm and reflective atmosphere. Others (22%) desired a more spiritual departure, seeking peace and closure in their final moments.

As for post-life celebrations, 31% of Marylanders expressed a preference for having their life celebrated with a big party, while 29% favored a quiet memorial. An interesting 15% opted for a tree-planting ceremony, symbolizing life, growth, and a lasting legacy. These choices reflect the diverse ways in which individuals want their lives to be honored and remembered.

The findings underscore the importance of personal and cultural traditions in end-of-life preferences. Whether it’s gathering for a crab feast or celebrating at Mardi Gras, the survey highlights how individuals wish to carry their passions and joys into their final moments.

Infographic Breakdown

In addition to these insights, Choice Mutual provided an infographic that illustrates the survey’s key results. From how people want to spend their last moments to who they want by their side, the visual breakdown captures the variety of preferences across the country.

While planning for the end of life may seem daunting, this survey provides a lighthearted yet meaningful reminder that it’s an opportunity to reflect on what truly matters. Whether you dream of cracking crabs with loved ones or taking in the vibrant colors of autumn, these final moments offer a chance to celebrate life in all its beautiful diversity.


David M. Higgins II is an award-winning journalist and founder of The Southern Maryland Chronicle. A Baltimore native raised in Southern Maryland, Higgins founded the Chronicle in 2017 and has built it...

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